Single Mom's shout out!

This one goes out to all of the single mom's out there. First of all, I would like to start off by stating to everyone out there that I have been a single mom for eight years now. Basically, it was my choice to raise my son on my own. My mother has been helping me to raise him. His father was pretty much a player, but we were from the same school and pretty much the same neighbor hood. He would always seek me out at high school. I was pretty much a loner, because I was extremely shy. I am still shy, but having a child can make you open up and become more outgoing. I realized late in the game that I was lied to by him and that I was pretty much on my own. He acted as though having a baby was like playing with a doll and then going home to his girlfriend that he did not tell me about and then I would have to figure out how to feed him and shelter him on my own. I thank God every day that my mom did not throw me out of her house and say go raise your illegitimate child on your own now.

Unfortunately, this is what happens in African American community. A young girl gets pregnant and her mother says good, now you can how I had to do it. Go do it on your own now. My mother has always believed that a divided kingdom cannot stand. If we all bonded together as families and helped each other out, we would all have a higher standing in society. I was faced with the decision to either stay and end up homeless, because my mom could no longer find work in New York at the time or to move away to the South and make a fresh start. I also had to choose between taking a job in Manhattan that offered to pay me $20 an hour and moving. Some years after making this horrid choice I realized why I had to pray about my answer of should I stay or should I go. I may have been killed or severely injured, because this job was going to be in the World trade center.

I know that my decision was best for both me and my son. I am on my way to becoming a nurse. I hope that my story can help to motivate single mom's. We can do it, be mother and father to our children if we have to. It would be nice to have someone great in my life as a husband to be their for me and my son, but I know that I am glad that I am equipped mentally, emotionally, and financially to care for him. I am not interested in getting any type of child support for him, because it doesn't help and I think that it just opens up a whole new can of worms. This gives the fathers out there a chance to become a Thorn in a single mom's side and can also open up a whole new can of worms. I want to say to all of the single mom's out there that you rock and I want to give each and everyone of you out there a shout out, because we all need one from time to time. We will prevail and we can do it on our own. We can raise our children to be positive and have a higher standing in society one day. So this one goes out to all of you.